Oops I did it again!

A few weeks back on our way back from school, I chatted with the girls about their school day.  It was a normal topic, almost routine and getting boring to some extend as their answers to my question of "How's school today?" always gets the same reply, "Good."

My subsequent question would be, "Any Ting Xie, Ejaan or Spelling?"  And then the it began.  Vic answered, "No" whilst the other girl answered "Yes" and now my ears pricked up.  Then Vic quickly changed her answer to "Yes" and I guess hoping I won't notice the initial discrepancy.

But I did.  And I did what I do best.  I grill.

I found out that Vic was out carrying books for her BM teacher and during her absence, the teacher wrote out Ejaan words on the blackboard, but it was cleaned off before Vic returned to class.  So she didn't know about the words to learn, until that faithful Ejaan day.

I did wrong

I did something really bad but at that time it was purely out of anger, so much anger because this wasn't the first time of her forgetting her Ejaan or Ting Xie words... worse still, she did not even copy them!  And this was because of her Monitor duties, which we told her should NOT affect her studies.  I know... it's just Ejaan words, it will not determine the person that she will be, nor if she will be successful or not, it's just words.  But it didn't seem like JUST words at that time, you know.  It was the whole thing about not asking her friends about class work missed during her absence, the whole tidak apa, main dulu attitude...

So I told her if she can't handle Monitor duties, then... quit!!  So many angry words slew out of me, and when I went home I rummaged through her tuition work and found pages of undone work and threw it at her.  OK, before you judge me, this was one of my bad mommy days.  I'm sorry, I really am.  

Well, the following day she "obediently" followed my words and told her class teacher that she will relinquish her role as Monitor and her class teacher apparently asked why and said "OK, effective September."  She came home reporting to me, and since I already felt bad from the time I said such bad things, I slowly asked her if she really wanted to be Monitor, then go explain to teacher the real reason and say Mommy has changed her mine.  So the next day, she went back to her class teacher to "say all these."

But guess what... the following day, we were at her canteen and I walked up to her class teacher to explain the situation myself, and her class teacher seemed blur.  She didn't know anything about this incident, and then I sort of knew that my Vic probably didn't do any talking to the teacher like she told me she did.  Who's telling the truth, was there a misunderstanding, I don't know, but Vic insisted that she did, and I leave it as it is.

  
Class Monitor she is still... she wears her badge proudly and checks with me that it's straight and not "covered" by her shirt collar.  She shares this duty with her BFF, Kristen who assist her and they split responsibilities taking down names of noisy classmates and helping teachers with books.